Fireproof - A Moment of Revelation in Marriage
Catherine Holt:
Caleb, what's happened to you?
Caleb Holt:
Dad asked me if there was anything in me that wanted to save our marriage. And then he gave me something. I could let you read it...
Catherine Holt:
Was it this?
Caleb Holt:
How long have you known?
Catherine Holt:
I found it yesterday. So what day are you on?
Caleb Holt:
43.
Catherine Holt:
There's only 40.
Caleb Holt:
Well, who says I have to stop?
Catherine Holt:
Caleb, I don't know how to process this. This is not normal for you.
Caleb Holt:
Welcome to the new normal.
Catherine Holt:
You didn't want to do this at first, did you?
Caleb Holt:
No. But halfway through, I realized that I did not understand what love was. And once I understood that, I wanted to do it.
Catherine Holt:
Caleb, I want to believe that this is real. But I am not ready to say that I trust you again.
Caleb Holt:
I understand that. But whether you ever reach that point or not, I need you to understand something. I am sorry. I have been so selfish. For the past seven years, I have trampled on you with my words and with my actions. I have loved other things when I should have loved you. And the last few weeks, God has given me a love for you that I have never had before. And I've asked Him to forgive me. And I'm hoping, and I'm praying, that somehow you would be able to forgive me too. Catherine, I do not want to live the rest of my life without you.
Catherine Holt:
Caleb, I'm supposed to give those divorce papers to my lawyer next week. I just, um...I just need some time to think.
Caleb Holt:
You can have all the time you need.
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Fireproof - Understanding Respect in Marriage Conflicts
Catherine's Girlfriend:
That's right, girl. Stand your ground. Make him respect you. If there is one thing a man understands...
Caleb Holt:
...it's respect. That's the issue. That's the reason our marriage is failing. She shows me no respect at all. And the saddest part about it is...
Catherine Holt:
...he doesn't have a clue. He thinks that our marriage is fine for the most part. You know, he probably thinks...
Caleb Holt:
Our marriage has been fine until this year! Now, she just goes off the deep end!
Michael Simmons: [Not fully buying into it]
Do you really think this just happened all of a sudden?
Caleb Holt:
I don't know what to think! I don't understand her! She's emotional about everything. She's easily offended, and way too sensitive.
Catherine Holt:
I mean, he's so insensitive! You know, he doesn't truly care how I feel, he doesn't listen to me.
Caleb Holt:
And then she starts nagging me, and saying I don't listen to her, or, something like that. It drives me crazy! I feel like I'm going...
Catherine Holt:
...insane. You know, he doesn't understand my needs. I feel like we are completely and totally...
Caleb Holt:
...incompatible. She's probably whining to her friends, making me sound like a criminal. I can see them right now you know, cryin and having some sort of group hug...
Michael Simmons:
So you think it's past the point of no return?
Caleb Holt:
I don't even have a reason to return.
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Fireproof - Conflict Over Responsibilities in a Marriage
Caleb Holt:
Why do you have to make everything so difficult?
Catherine Holt:
Oh, I'm making everything difficult? Seems to me like I'm carrying the weight around here while you're off doing your own thing.
Caleb Holt:
Excuse me?! I'm the one out there working to pay this mortgage and I pay for both of the cars!
Catherine Holt:
Yeah, and that's all you do! I'm the one paying all of our bills with my salary!
Caleb Holt:
Which you agreed to do. That's fair. Do you not like this house? Do you not like your car?
Catherine Holt:
Caleb, who takes care of this house? Me! Who washes all the clothes? Me! Who gets all the groceries? Me! Not to mention I'm helping my parents every weekend. You know, I've got all this pressure on me, and the only thing you ever do for anybody is yourself!
Caleb Holt:
Let me tell you something, you don't know the first thing about pressure, alright? You think I put out house fires for myself? Or rush to car wrecks at 2:00 am for myself? Or pull a child's body out of a lake for myself? You have no idea what I go through!
Catherine Holt:
Oh, yeah, well, what do you do around other than watch TV, or waste time on the internet? You know what, if looking at that trash is how you get fulfilled, that's fine. But I will not compete with it.
Caleb Holt:
Well, I sure don't get it from you!
Catherine Holt:
And you won't! Because you care more about saving for your stupid boat and pleasing yourself than you ever did about me!
Caleb Holt:
SHUT UP!!! I'M SICK OF YOU, YOU DISRESPECTFUL, UNGRATEFUL, SELFISH WOMAN!!!
Catherine Holt:
I'm not selfish...
Caleb Holt:
HOW DARE YOU SAY THAT TO ME?!! YOU CONSTANTLY NAG ME AND YOU GRIND THE LIFE OUT OF ME! I'M TIRED OF IT! IF YOU CAN'T GIVE ME THE RESPECT I DESERVE--LOOK AT ME! THEN WHAT'S THE POINT OF THIS MARRIAGE?!
Catherine Holt: [Voice shaking, on the verge of tears]
I want out. I just want out.
Caleb Holt:
If you want out...THAT'S FINE WITH ME!!!
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