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The Struggles of Motherhood and Isolation
Céline
Very few people realize what it is like for an active or passionate woman to have a child. Some friends told me, "you'll see, you'll want to throw them out the window." Okay, but the truth is I never wanted to hurt them once but I thought about ending it all for myself a hundred times. I was so confused, and you were always away on a stupid book tour or because of Henry's custody shit and I didn't want to be a burden. Now I know why ] put her head in a toaster.
[[Sylvia Plath]
Jesse
It was an oven.
Céline
Don't play with words. You know what I mean - toaster, oven. Same thing. You know how many times I was alone with the girls crying with no clue what to do? Do you know the guilt a mother feels when she doesn't know what to do?
Jesse
Do you think you have sole ownership of that feeling?
Céline
I don't think you understand, okay? You know what my secret fear is? With every man? Is that they all want to turn me into a submissive housewife.
Jesse
Okay, no one could ever do that, all right? I promise, it would be easier to fit your head into a toaster than to turn you into anything submissive.
Céline
I don't think I've recovered since giving birth. When they were born, I had no idea what to do. People expect women to have instinct that kicks in, like a female baboon. But I had no idea how to do anything. I loved them so much, and I was doing everything wrong. And you were away so often, calling me, asking me how my day went, and I couldn't even say it to you because I felt so ashamed for being so clueless.
Jesse
Look, I think you did great.
Céline
No, I didn't.
Jesse
No, you did. Well, you did a good job faking it, then.
Céline
I remember the only way I could get them to sleep was to drag that stupid double stroller down the stairs and walk them for hours and hours in the middle of the night, all the way to Pigalle and back. I almost got mugged once... I mean, the only reason why the guy didn't attack me was is that I looked so pathetic. The only upside of being over 35 is that you don't get raped as much. I read it - its true.
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Reflecting on Change in Long-Term Relationships
Céline
So if we're going to spend another fifty-six more years together...
Jesse
Yeah?
Céline
What about me would you like to change?
Jesse
That's another one of your can't-win questions. I'm not answering that.
[Smirks]
Céline
What do you mean? There's not one thing you'd like to change about me? I'm perfect?
Jesse
Okay.
Céline
Okay.
Jesse
Actually...
Céline
One thing.
Jesse
If I could change one thing about you...
Céline
Uh-huh.
Jesse
It would be for you to stop trying to change me.
Céline
You're a very skilled manipulator, you know that?
Jesse
Well, I'm onto you. I know how you work.
Céline
You think?
Jesse
Yeah. I know everything about you.
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The Nature of Human Discontent
Jesse
I remember thinking: this is the natural human state - always a little dissatisfied, perpetually discontented, you know?
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Reflections on a Decade of Freedom
Jesse
You know what I think? I think from the time we leave our parents house until we have kids - that's the only time your life is completely your own. You know I think I had about a decade of that. It was great. It was just like one long, flowing... a day, a week, a year, there wasn't much difference.
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Attraction and Hypothetical Situations in Relationships
Céline
If we were meeting for the first time today on a train, would you find me attractive?
Jesse
Of course.
Céline
No, but really, right now as I am? Would you start talking to me? Would you ask me to get off the train with you?
Jesse
Well, I mean, you're asking a theoretical question. I mean, what would my life situation be? I mean technically, wouldn't I be cheating on you?
Céline
Okay. Why can't you just say "yes"?
Jesse
No, I did. I said, "of course"! That was -
Céline
No-no-no! I wanted you to say something romantic and you blew it.
Jesse
Oh, okay. Alright, wait - if I saw you on a train, okay, listen. I would lock eyes with you.
Céline
Uh-huh.
Jesse
And then I'd walk right up to you and I'd say, "Hey, baby. You are making me as horny as a billy goat in a briar patch.
Céline
Stop it, that's disgusting! Billy goat. No, the truth is, you failed the test. And the fact is, you would not pick me up on a train. You wouldn't even notice me, a fat-assed middle-aged mom, losing her hair.
Jesse
Okay. Losing her hair?
[Laughing]
Céline
Yeah, that's me!
Jesse
You set me up to fail. Honestly, you did.
Céline
Okay, true. True.
Jesse
Alright? Alright? But in the real world, baldy, on game day when it mattered, I did talk to you on a train. I did that, it was the best thing I ever did.
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The Struggles of Real Love
Jesse
You're just like the little girls and everybody else. You wanna live inside some fairy tale. I'm just trying to make things better. I tell you that I love you unconditionally, I tell you that you're beautiful, I tell you that your ass looks great when you're 80. I try to make you laugh.
Céline
OK.
Jesse
All right, I put up with plenty of your shit. And if you think I'm just some dog who's gonna keep coming back, then you're wrong. But if you want true love, then this is it. This is real life. It's not perfect, but it's real. And if you can't see it, then you're blind, all right, and I give up.
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Revisiting Past Connections and Memories
Céline
Do you remember this friend of mine? George, from New York.
Jesse
No.
Céline
Oh, no, that was before. That was before.
Jesse
What was?
Céline
He was this friend of mine that, when he found out he had leukemia, and he was probably going to die, he confessed to me that the first thing that came to his mind was relief.
Jesse
Relief? But why?
Céline
Well, before he found out he had nine months to live he was always so worried about money, and now his thought was, great! I have more than enough money to live for the next nine months, I've made it!
Jesse
Oh, okay.
[laughing]
Céline
And then he was finally able to enjoy everything about life, even like being stuck in traffic. He would just enjoy looking at people... staring at their faces. Just little things.
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The Dynamics of Rational and Emotional Conversations
Jesse
So this is how you now want to be spending this evening? I mean, this is what you wanna do tonight?
Céline
Well, you started it.
Jesse
No. You are the one who will not shut up about it. But if you want to talk about it, I mean, really talk about it. I would prefer to have an unemotional, rational conversation. I mean, do you think we can do that? Would that be possible?
Céline
Here we go. Unemotional, rational. You always play the part of the one and only rational one and I'm the irrational, hysterical, hormone-crazy one because I have emotions. Yeah, you sit back and you speak from your big perspective which means everything you say is level-headed and true.
Jesse
I don't always do anything.
Céline
The world is fucked by unemotional rational men deciding shit, alright? Politicians going to war for no reason, corporate heads deciding to wreck the environment, ], ] - very rational men.
[[Dick Cheney|Cheney; [Donald Rumsfeld|Rumsfeld]
Jesse
Cheney and Rumsfeld? Yeah, okay.
Céline
The ]? Very rational thinking behind it.
[[w:final solution|final solution]
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The Transience of Human Connection
Natalia
Like sunlight, sunset, we appear, we disappear. We are so important to some, but we are just passing through.
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Acceptance of Flaws in Love
Jesse
I am giving you my whole life OK? I got nothing larger to give, I'm not giving it to anybody else. If you're looking for permission to disqualify me, I'm not gonna give it to you. OK? I love you. And I'm not in conflict about it. OK? But if what you want is like a laundry list of all the things that piss me off, I can give it to you.
Céline
Yeah, I want to hear.
Jesse
Okay well, number 1, you're fucking nuts! You are. Good luck! Find somebody else to put up with your shit for more than like 6 months, okay? But I accept the whole package, the crazy and the brilliant. I know you're not gonna change and I don't want you to. It's called accepting you for being you.
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The Cost of Women's Achievements
Céline
Most women who achieve anything in life, the first time you hear about them, they're in their 50's, because it was so hard for them to get any recognition before then. They struggle for 30 years or they raise kids and were stranded at home before they could finally do what they want. Actually, you know what? It's kind of freeing. We don't have to spend our lives comparing ourselves to ], ], ]...
[[Martin Luther King; [Mahatma Gandhi|Gandhi; [Leo Tolstoy|Tolstoy]
Jesse
What about ], right, she was a teenager and she saved France, so...
[[w:Joan of Arc|Joan of Arc]
Céline
Who wants to be Joan of Arc? Forget France, she was burnt at the stake and a virgin, okay. Nothing I aspired to. What a great achievement!
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A Memorable Night Ahead
Jesse
Do you think it could be tonight that you're still talking about in your 80s?
Céline
Well, it must have been one hell of a night we're about to have.
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